Has this ever sounded like you?
- You go into the week with resolve and enthusiasm, work your ass off to fulfill the needs of clients, customers, and loved ones, and by the time Friday hits, you have no fucking clue what you accomplished. You know on a deep level that you didn’t get everything you needed to feel grounded and fulfilled. You tell yourself that next week will be different, but next Friday is a repeat of that same unfinished, frazzled feeling.
- You resent that you lose your entire week to the loudest demands. You lose treasured time you’d like to spend tending the sacred threads of your life. Your loved ones feel your absence, and your most exciting projects are temporarily forgotten or usurped by shit that may not even belong on your plate.
- You’ve abandoned more planners than you’ve actually used. You have office supplies coming out of your ears, to-do lists and post-its in piles all over your life, and you still don’t use your time in meaningful, measurable ways. You buy shiny new tools that are often not really aligned with how you work or who you are.
- You feel isolated and disconnected from meaningful community and conversation. You may be kicking ass, but you don’t feel seen in all the things you’re doing to get where you are and you aren’t fulfilled because you aren’t witnessed, celebrated, and encouraged by others who are navigating life with the same intentions and energy.
I’ve been there.
Most people have at some point. Almost everyone has at some point lost sight of our actual goals while working harder at looking successful and busy. We have forgotten how to exist within meaningful community spaces that witness, encourage, and challenge us.
We’ve also lost track of this truth: The fact that you are busy, constantly running, handling five things at any given time, and immensely responsible in multiple areas of your life does not mean you’re productive, and it definitely doesn’t mean that you’re fulfilled. It might mean that you’re out of focus.
As someone who appreciates the occasional (or even frequent) use of a well placed F-bomb it really says something that I see “busy” as a four-letter word that can do just as much, if not more, damage than your favorite expletive.
Busy is for bees, and sacred, intentional focus is for YOU.
It’s time to go beyond surviving and instead THRIVE within all of the lives you live. What does this look like?
- You go home and you’re fully present for yourself and anyone else you call family. You manage household responsibilities realistically and with more compassion for yourself and others who share hearth space with you.
- You go to work and take appropriate breaks, use systems that keep you grounded in what you’re doing, maintain boundaries that keep you out of office politics, and you optimize your time so that you can leave on time, and leave work at work.
- You see your friends and carry zero guilt about being away from anything else, knowing that you’ve worked smart and prioritized your continued wellness in order to be completely off duty on all fronts, and this makes you a better friend to those you thoughtfully welcome in to your life and to yourself as well.
- You go inward because you know that you’re better equipped to wear all of your hats when you feel connected to and supported by a well-tended soul path, a spiritual community, your ancestors, your local community, and a holistically tended body.
- You show up outwardly because you now have time and appreciation for offering thoughtfully chosen service to communities (human or otherwise) in need of the time and energy you now have to give, and depending on your identity, the privilege you’ve become willing to unpack while working to dismantle the systems that gave it to you.
It’s completely possible to thoughtfully tend all of the areas of our lives with sacred respect for a life lived intentionally, and to find our best support within intentional community.
You might be able to tackle this refocusing on your own (although you’re already doing everything on your own, and isn’t that shit exhausting?), but wouldn’t it be nice to have a community of support tended by a passionately anti-busy nerd who’s figured some of this out?
Enlisting support in this journey is one of the best gifts you could give yourself, and this is a journey that I love to continually assess and refine, both for myself and for others. Those in our community space are all doing this work too.
The supportive community I offer here can help you regain focus without creating further stress or taking more of your time. Living a soulfully focused life is about reclaiming what’s been given away without clear intention or consent, and giving energy to all areas of life with sacred and intentional awareness.
You deserve to feel a hell of a lot less busy and that much more aligned and fulfilled. You deserve to deeply connect with the reality of how hard you work, how much you care, and how deeply you impact those around you.
If you’re not connected to those realities, you’re missing the best part of everything you’re doing for yourself and others: the experience.
Here are the key areas of information and mentoring that I offer to this community:
- (F)INDING SYSTEMS, TOOLS, AND HELPERS
- We are increasingly more efficient and less stressed with the right allies, the best tools for our current work, and systems that streamline that work and offer us accountability and support. I love connecting others with what works for you, based on who you are, how you work best, and what you’ll actually use.
- (O)CCUPATION OF SPACE AND TIME WITH SACRED INTENTION
- So much of our precious time is wasted at work, in front of a screen, or staring at a pile clutter. We don’t meet optimal outcomes because we don’t offer ourselves the right structure and supportive, flexible routine. Rigidity can prevent flow, but lack of structure can turn flow into a puddle with no momentum.
- (C)LARIFICATION OF GOALS AND BOUNDARIES
- I’m not a fan of ten-year roadmaps, but when we don’t have immediate goals that are rooted in some kind of forward thinking about our lives we are at high risk of being pulled off course and fulfilling someone else’s goals rather than ours, often to our own detriment.
- (U)NPACKING OUR SHIT, PERSONALLY & SYSTEMICALLY
- We often know what isn’t working, but we don’t make the changes we’re able to. I push myself and others to always poke at the ways we hold ourselves back, hold others back, or allow others to hold us back, while maintaining compassion for and acknowledgement of barriers that are systemic and require bigger change (sometimes starting with us).
- (S)PENDING MORE TIME IN SACRED CONNECTION
- There’s no point to any of this without a deep connection with the sacred in our lives. It doesn’t matter what that means for each of us, only that we access, heal, and nurture both ourselves and a complex world through which we carry not just ourselves, but our entire ancestral line. I will push you to engage beyond your task list in whatever way connects you to your inner knowing and a sacred unseen Source.
What I offer through Soulful Focus is ongoing witnessing of your journey, not just by me, but by a community of others who are also working toward a soulful, focused life.